Relationships are more of a science now than an art, really. There are plenty of psychologists out there who study the nuances involved in making a relationship work between two human beings. The science of relationships is actually one of the fastest-growing academic fields in the science community these days.
Every single day, there are always new ideas and theories that aim to give us more insight into how relationships work – and what habits are considered to be the best practices. And so it shouldn’t be anyone’s excuse anymore at this point that they don’t know how to make relationships work.
All of the data and information are available for everyone to seek. All it takes is a little initiative and the willingness to learn.
Yes, it can be very awkward and weird having to navigate your way into someone’s heart. It’s a very confusing world out there – and it’s not always going to be easy trying to establish a connection with another person. But that doesn’t mean that you have to subject yourself to taking shots in the dark all of the time.
You just need to equip yourself with the necessary information to help you interact and connect with other people more effectively – and you also need to be aware of the things that you need to stop doing.
So if you find that you are guilty of a lot of the bad habits listed on here, then you need to make a change. You need to make an adjustment if you know what’s good for you. Here are 8 common reasons that you suck at relationships.
1. You make impulsive decisions without consulting your partner.
You are in a relationship with another human being. And so you always have to make sure that you aren’t just making decisions and plans on your own anymore. You need to make your partner feel included in your life. You always have to include them in the decision-making process. You don’t want your partner to feel like a mere spectator in your own relationship. You need to be working together as real partners.
2. You argue in an immature and unhealthy manner.
You shouldn’t be afraid of disagreeing with another person you like. You should always be willing to work past whatever differences or conflicts you might have as a couple. But you should also know how to go about it in a mature manner. You can’t be resorting to cheap personal attacks that are below the belt.
3. You are passive-aggressive in your approach to addressing issues in a relationship.
Whenever there are issues in your relationship, you need to be able to tackle them head-on like a real adult. And you need to tackle them through mature lines of communication with your partner. You can’t resort to passive-aggressive behavior if you want to be able to fix things in your relationship. Passive-aggressive behavior solves nothing and helps no one.
4. You automatically jump to conclusions without first knowing the whole story.
Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions. Don’t be so paranoid about everything. You can’t afford to be blowing up at your partner without even knowing the whole story first. Gather some perspective and keep your emotions in check. No one likes being with a loose cannon.
5. You keep dating the same kind of toxic person.
If you just keep on finding yourself in a string of bad relationships with toxic people, then it’s probably because you keep dating the same kind of person over and over again. You need to start diversifying the pool of people that you are willing to date if you want different results. Mix things up a little bit. Date different kinds of people.
6. You focus too much on yourself in the relationship.
You can’t afford to be selfish if you want to get into a relationship with someone else. Remember that there are two people in a relationship.
And you can’t just keep on focusing on your own personal needs. You need to be accommodating of the needs of your partner as well. You need to be able to pay attention to your partner’s personal sentiments about your relationship.
7. You attract too much drama into your life.
No one likes unnecessary drama in a relationship. And if you think that drama is a perfectly acceptable way of dealing with boredom, then that’s the reason that no one wants to be with you. You need to stop stirring up drama just for the sake of making things interesting. No one wants that.
8. You don’t keep the promises that you make.
Your word is your bond to someone else. And when you go back on your word, you are also slowly breaking the bond that you have with another person. You always have to make sure that you keep whatever promises and commitments that you make to another person. You always want to be trustworthy.
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