“When you know, you just know.”
Is there really any truth to that saying? Why is it a lot of couples who decide to get married still end up getting divorced? Did they “not know” what they were doing?
Marriage is always tricky. A lot of people would say that it is the most significant form of commitment that you could ever give to another human being. Others say that it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be and that it’s a complete waste of time. Regardless of your stance on the issue, there’s no denying just how big of a social institution a marriage is in this day and age. And it’s absolutely important for long-term couples to really think about what they’re doing before they jump into making any commitments to one another.
How do you know when you’re just meant to get married to the guy you’re already with? Do you need to know almost instantaneously? Is it something that you can only come to know after a long period of time? There is no definitive answer really. There are couples who get married within just a few months of meeting one another and they are able to make their marriages last. There are couples who stay together for 10 years before getting married only to have their marriages crumble into the ashes. There are always going to be exceptions to the rule and that’s why it’s so hard to generalize.
However, certain patterns can emerge from couples with strong relationships; certain trends will present themselves. If you find that a lot of these things apply to you and your partner, then the chances are that the both of you are going to be spending the rest of your lives together.
1. He surprises you that a man like him even exists in this world.
You thought that you’ve seen them all. You think that you know what all men are like and that you can practically predict how they’re going to treat you. But he’s always different. He always has a way of surprising you – by proving himself to be someone who exceeds expectations.
2. He has a way of making you grow more and more attracted to him the longer you stay together.
He is constantly making an effort to make you fall in love with him every day that you’re together. He doesn’t grow complacent. He knows that he always has to work at making sure that your love and affection for one another is always growing.
3. He makes you feel okay with contradicting and fighting him every now and then.
He is never going to make you feel bad about being honest. He is never going to make it seem like you should be guilty about disagreeing with him. He is always going to make you feel welcome to express yourself in an honest and blunt manner.
4. He makes you feel valued and appreciated all the time.
He is a man who understands the importance of expressing thanks and gratitude. He is always going to make sure that you know just how appreciative he is of your efforts. He wants you to know that he is never going to take you for granted.
5. He has certain quirks and eccentricities that you find appealing.
There are certain aspects to his personality which other people might find weird and off-putting; but you happen to find them charming and unique. This is proof of great compatibility between the two of you wherein you are able to appreciate each other’s quirks.
6. He shows a willingness to compromise for you.
A man who always shows a willingness to compromise is a guy who is always going to be a great catch. He’s a guy who understands that he can’t be selfish if he truly wants to be with you. He shows a willingness to adjust so that he can meet you halfway and make things work with you.
7. He never does anything to make you doubt his commitment.
He is always going t pour all of himself into your relationship. He is always going to commit o you and make sure that you know how serious he is about being with you.
8. He shares similar plans for the future with you.
It’s always a good sign if he is able to envision a future where the both of you are still together and happy. If you are able to share similar visions of the future, then that minimizes the potential friction that most couples have as the relationship gets deeper and deeper.
9. He makes you a better person because you’re together.
Ultimately, all relationships should always have a way of making the people in them better individuals overall. And if you’ve found a man who inspires and motivates you to be a better woman; a man who pushes you to live a life for yourself that you could never even dream of, then he’s definitely a guy you can spend the rest of your life with.