There is this common narrative or plot point that Hollywood likes to utilize in its romantic comedies a lot – the leading couple is forced to go through some kind of major setback in the middle of the movie only to find their way back into each other’s arms in the end. A lot of artificially constructed obstacles are placed in their path; and these obstacles are designed to really threaten the sanctity of their love. And the more difficult and hopeless the situation may become because of that setback, then the more rewarding the ending becomes when they finally end up together and live their fairytale conclusion.
If only real life worked like that, right? If only we were all guaranteed our happy endings no matter how difficult our challenges in our relationships might be. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Real life isn’t always going to be on our side. The universe isn’t always going to be so forgiving of our relationship sins. Sometimes, we screw up in our relationships to the point that we make things virtually irreparable. Relationships aren’t guaranteed happy endings in real life. Relationships end.
And that’s why it’s absolutely essential for couples to never take their relationships for granted. There are so many things that go into making a relationship work; and it can be hard to tick all the boxes in this regard. But couples must always be trying their best to make sure that they are putting themselves in the best position to have their fairytale endings. This is why it’s absolutely essential for you to be maintaining a certain sense of mindfulness and self-awareness in your relationship. You always have to know your place in your romance; and you need to be aware of what effects your words and actions are making on your relationship as a whole.
You must always make sure that you aren’t doing or saying anything that will make it harder for your man to love you. You never know if you might be doing things that you might think are innocent – when in truth, you are driving both you and your partner farther and farther away from one another. You can’t have that be the case. Here are 10 things you should avoid doing if you want your man to stay in love with you.
1. You don’t allow him to go out with his friends without you.
Men don’t like to feel like they’re being controlled. Men don’t want to be made to feel like they’re not allowed to do something just because you say so. You have to let him have a social life; even if it’s one that doesn’t always include you. You can’t be the only person in his life.
2. Ask him to spend ALL of his time with you.
He has other things in life that require his focus and attention. You can’t expect him to be spending ALL of his time on you and the relationship. You have to allow him to live his own life outside of you.
3. Pressure him into taking your relationship to the next level.
Just because you think that you’re ready to get married doesn’t mean that he’s going to be the same way. You have to make sure that you don’t pressure him into rushing through the stages of your relationship if he’s not ready for it.
4. Get in the way of his personal dreams.
Just because you’re in a relationship together doesn’t mean that you should be standing in the way of his dreams. You should both be pushing and supporting one another in your careers.
5. Air out your dirty laundry to people outside of the relationship
Keep the intimate aspects of your relationship to yourselves. There’s no need to be blabbing on about the private facets of your love to other people.
6. Bring a lot of drama into your relationship.
Men hate drama. You have to know that by now. So if you’re the type of girl who draws a lot of drama to yourself, then he’s not going to want much to do with you.
7. Be selfish about your personal needs and expectations without taking him into consideration.
You can’t afford to be selfish anymore. You can’t just be thinking of yourself. You also have to be taking your man into consideration when making decisions and plans in life.
8. Threaten to leave him if he doesn’t do something for you.
Ultimatums are terrible. You should never be threatening to leave your man. You shouldn’t be making it seem like your love for him is conditional.
9. Refuse to pick up after yourself.
Be a responsible adult. Pick up after yourself. Clean your ow messes. You can’t keep expecting him to solve all of your problems on your behalf.
10. Be irresponsible with his money.
This is one of the biggest no-no’s in a relationship. It’s understandable that the more serious your relationship gets, you’re going to want to share your finances. But that doesn’t mean that you have the right to be spending his money recklessly.