You have probably been spoiled by so many books, movies, and fairytale narratives at this point that you now have some unreasonably high expectations of love and romance. It’s normal for you to fantasize about actually meeting that one person who is going to add a sense of completion, meaning, and fulfillment into your life.
You have always just dreamed of meeting that one person who is going to make all of your romantic dreams come true. That’s fine. You should always feel free to actually pursue these dreams to the best of your ability. After all, love is the one thing in this world that is worth fighting for.
And make no mistake about the fact that you’re going to have to fight for it. It’s not something that is just going to fall into your lap and last forever. Love is something that you’re going to have to continually work at if you want to continue to keep it in your life. That’s why it’s okay for you to always try very hard to keep love in your life.
However, you also shouldn’t be pursuing love to the point of desperation. You don’t want to be trying too hard to the point that you are actually blinding yourself to the things that require your attention. You shouldn’t love someone too much to the point that you start neglecting the things that you should still be staying mindful of.
Sometimes, you will be trying too hard to make things work with a guy even when you don’t even have a shot at doing so. And why? Because he just can’t bring himself to love you. As difficult truth as this might be to swallow, it’s something that you really have to accept.
Love isn’t something that you can just force. Yes, you can fight for it all you want. You can try your best to make love work with someone. But if a guy just can’t bring himself to love you, then it’s just never going to happen. And you don’t want to be wasting your time with someone who is never going to love you the way that you deserve to be loved.
You only have one life to live but that doesn’t mean that you’re only going to get one shot at love. If it doesn’t work out with one person, it’s okay for you to call it quits and try again with someone else. Instinctively, you are going to want to stay and fight for things. But you must also be strong and wise enough to know when it’s time for you to walk away.
If you notice that a lot of the signs that will be listed on here actually apply to the man that you’re with, then sorry to break it to you: he’s never going to fall in love with you. And if that’s the case, you have to just be able to call it quits with him and move on to someone better. Here are a few signs that your man just can’t (and won’t) fall in love with you:
- He is constantly demeaning and disrespecting you.
- He has a history of just playing women.
- He is always acting self-obsessively in the relationship.
- He sets unrealistic expectations and standards for you.
- He refuses to apologize to you when he’s wrong.
- He will tell you that he doesn’t love you.
Generally speaking, a lot of women will have a tendency to just blame themselves for having men who don’t love them. They will think that their misfortune in love is a result of them being too clingy, demanding, impatient, or dramatic.
But what you have to realize as a woman is that a lot of the time, it doesn’t even have anything to do with you. You might just be with a guy who is incapable of falling in love with anyone.
And when that’s the case, you know that this is just going to be a circumstance which is beyond your control. And you have to be humble enough to accept the fact that you don’t have the power to force the issue here.
At any rate, you don’t want to be in a relationship that is abusive, one-sided, manipulative, and devoid of any meaning anyway. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on to better things.