Relationships are always going to be rewarding whenever they’re done right but they’re never designed to be easy. If they were, then there wouldn’t be so many couples in the world that are just breaking up left and right. That’s why people in relationships should always make a conscious effort to actually build on the love and intimacy that they have with their partners. And more importantly, couples should always actively avoid making mistakes and bad habits that could prove to be detrimental to the relationship overall.
Relationships are always going to require a lot of time, effort, dedication, and commitment – and it has to come from the two people involved. It can never be just a one-sided thing. It takes two really committed individuals to sustain love in a relationship. And it’s also important that these two people make it a point of never doing anything that would put the relationship in harm’s way.
You might not suspect it, but you are prone to actually committing a lot of mistakes in the relationship which you might not even be aware of. You might think that a lot of what you do is done out of a place of love – and that most of your actions would typically be harmless. However, you might be guilty of actually damaging your relationship significantly without you even realizing it. That’s why self-awareness and mindfulness are always important in a relationship. You always want to have a good grasp of everything that is going on and what you’re doing.
And a lot of that starts with you just knowing what to look out for. You just need to make sure that you police yourself. If you notice that you are doing a lot of the things that are listed here, then you are damaging your relationship without you even knowing it.
1. You talk bad about yourself.
Rule number one: be confident. Always be confident in yourself. Always see the best in yourself. Your partner is going to follow suit.
2. You don’t respond to negative feedback constructively.
You have to be able to take negative feedback in a constructive manner. You have to be mature enough to acknowledge that you always have room for improvement. You can’t always feel like your partner is attacking you when you’re being criticized.
3. You expect too much of your partner.
Manage your expectations better. You don’t want to be putting too much pressure on your partner to be a certain way. And you’re only going to be setting yourself up for disappointment if they ever fail.
4. You play the blame game too much.
It’s always important that you understand the importance of taking responsibility in your relationship. Instead of finding something or someone else to blame, acknowledge what you failed to give and just learn as you move forward.
5. You air out your dirty laundry.
It’s possible that you’re going to have your fair share of dirty laundry in the relationship. That’s normal. You and your partner are going to have your issues. But don’t make the mistake of thinking that it’s okay for you to be broadcasting these issues to your friends and family. Keep things intimate and private.
6. You let your past define your current relationship.
You should never allow your past to define your current relationship. You must always make it a point to understand that even though your past helped shape who you are now, it shouldn’t serve as a barrier for everything that you want to become in the future.
7. You expect the worst of your partner.
Having a negative and pessimistic view of your partner and the relationship can really harm the romance between the two of you. It can kill love, affection, trust, and intimacy between you two if you are always expecting the worst out of each other.
8. You don’t engage in self-care.
You need to take care of yourself if you really want to be able to sustain your relationship. You might think that losing a sense of self-love is okay once you get into a relationship, but that’s not the case. You make it so much easier for your partner to love you if you continue to love yourself.
9. You don’t open yourself up to new experiences.
You have to understand that real growth takes place outside of what you’re typically used to or familiar with. You need to be willing to open yourself (and your relationship) up to new experiences if you really want to grow in your love for one another.
10. You withhold the love and affection that you feel.
You should never be withholding of the love and affection that you feel for your partner. You should never be afraid of letting them know just how crazy you are about being in a relationship with them.