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Fake relationships: 8 red flags that you’re in a fake relationship

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Written by Azeemen

 

Fake relationships – This one’s tricky, to differentiate a real relationship from one that’s fake. What is a fake relationship? It’s an illusion that В you have come to believe, a dream of a long-lasting relationship. Many of us are in counterfeit relationships, without even knowing. What you might be having is an affair, В real relationships take a lot of efforts, no doubts there, but they are always better than fake ones in the long run.

There is a big difference between someone just saying those lovey-dopey things to you and someone that means those things. There are a lot of things that need to be considered to be in a ‘real relationship’ because one can easily manipulate someone and fool them into believing that they love them. Most people try to get in relationships to ˜get in their pants’, or it is more like a ˜time-pass’ kind of a thing.

Here are the red flags that you need to keep an eye out for and prevent yourself from being fooled.

1. The communication sucks

Excellent communication is a requisite for a healthy relationship, if you are in a relationship where you two barely communicate, you can’t recall the last time you had a heart to heart with your partner, you just text each other every once in a while, it’s В only on and off, you are unaware of what’s going on in the other person’s life and it generally feels like you don’t know the other person then you’re not really in a relationship. You have formed a real bond only when you feel connected with your partner; emotionally, physically, and mentally.

For example, if we talk about long-distance relationships. The communication is kind of the only thing the two have. They don’t get to see each other every day, and they don’t get to go on a date with each other either, texting and to call one another is the only thing they have. Now, to stay together, they have to talk nearly all day long. You have to text them all the time to know ˜what’s up’, you have to call quite often to understand how they are doing, maybe a video call sometimes and go on a ˜virtual’ date.

Anyway, be it a long-distance one or a healthy relationship, the communication has to be there. It doesn’t mean you have to text your loved one every second of the day, but you should know what’s happening in their lives, how was their day and on and on and on. You have GOT to have those long night conversations every once a while. The time where only you two are together, there’s no one else to disturb, you two can’t stop talking with each other, opening up in front of each other, those are the real conversations you want.

If you get to know normal day-to-day things about YOUR loved one through social media or someone else, even their birthdays from a Facebook notification, you’re in a Fake relationship.

2. Too much PDA

This might come as a surprise, and you two are practically nibbling on each other, isn’t that a good thing? No, it isn’t. This is indicative of over-compensatory and ostentatious behavior. You are trying to put on a show, make-believe. It’s a way of maintaining the illusion that you guys have created, to lie to yourself and the others around you. You might be in a fake relationship and still manage to hear things like; ‘What a perfect couple you guys are,’ ‘You make us want to have a relationship’ etc. If you guys are not this crazy about each other in private but can’t keep your hands off each other as soon as you have company, then you have a few questions to ask.

This is not something very unique, and many real-life couples do this. They put up a show every time they are out hanging with their friends, or at a party, dinner, or whatever it is. They hold each other and smile together when they are in front of other people, but as soon as they get in the car to go back to their home, it’s the opposite. You both need to talk to each other, know what’s going in the wrong direction, and ask each other questions like do you even want to stay with each other.

It is sweet, seeing a couple holding hands or kissing. I mean, kissing in public shouldn’t be one of those prolonged ones that end up in the making out, and there shouldn’t be grabbing in public either, but a little PDA is sweet. But this PDA can be very quickly deceiving. Overcompensating for something going in your life in front of people is not something new, and it admittedly isn’t limited to relationships either. PDA can even, sometimes, seem forced. It’s a pretty common saying that appearances can be deceiving.

So, it is not always the way it looks like if you see a couple smiling and holding hands together out in public, doesn’t mean they are happy together.

 

3. There are no remarkable moments

The relationship feels ‘normal,’ nothing special. You guys don’t have any exceptional memories together, and there are no extraordinary feelings attached to the time you guys spend together. This shouldn’t be the case, love is a unique feeling, and if it feels anything less than amazing, you’re not really in love.

It doesn’t have to be something huge, like a big event or moment, even small tiny things, like the inside jokes and having cute nicknames for each other, can mean a lot. There has to be something that you both can relate to, again, it doesn’t have to be big, something that can make you either remember a sweet memory or even laugh together.

Something that you see and makes you think about your partner, something that makes you miss them. For example, some post you see on a social networking site, and it reminds you of that person, and you tag them. It can be a video, song, picture, or whatever. But I’m trying to say here is that even something as little as a post on Facebook can mean a lot.

It can be a movie you both saw together, a place you went to on your first date, or like I said, anything. But there HAS to be this ‘anything’ in your relationship, because if there isn’t anything like this, bad news, you’re in a fake relationship.

You have to feel different when you are in a relationship with that person. A feeling that you have never experienced before. Because you can feel gentle with a friend as well, you can have memories too but to have that unexplainable feeling is what you can get with a person you love.

4. There is a lot of confusion

Initially, we all are a little В hazy, not sure what to feel or if it’s okay to feel this way, unsure of your partner’s feelings, spending hours contemplating he loves me, he loves me not; but after you have spent notable time with your partner and В you can’t really give substance to how you feel or if your partner truly loves you and you are not trying to do anything about this disarray of feelings and continue to profess love then this is a classic sign of a fake relationship.

This is one of the things that you DON’T want to have in your head while in a relationship. There has to be trusted, and you have got to be entirely sure about this person because you want to spend your whole life with this particular person. Even if it takes asking your partner, if he loves you or not, a hundred times, do that. Be a hundred and ten percent sure about that person, and then decide. Because you don’t want to live with this confused feeling your whole life and end up regretting

 

And it is not just them, and YOU have to be sure about them as well. You don’t have to lie to yourself and stay with that person to make them happy or just because you were forced to. If you don’t feel particular about that person, go and talk to them and try to make them understand you, because sometimes you may fall for someone and after a couple of months, you realize that it’s not the best idea for the both of you. So instead of lying to yourself and ruining the other person’s life as well, talk to them if you’re having doubts and then decide what to do.

Having those little confusions and misunderstandings are okay, everyone goes through them, you may even fight a couple of times with your partner over different things, but at the end of the day, you have got to have this feeling that, no matter what happens, he loves you and will stay with you!

5. Serious discussions are off-limits

This is an extension of bad communication, and a couple has silly conversations as well as serious proposals. You are wrong to think that a perfect relationship is one with no arguments and heated discussions; a happy couple talks about things that matter, and it does not affect their love for each other. If you guys avoid having meaningful conversations, talk about superficial things like the weather, then your relationship is too good to be true. If you care about things, then there is no way you can go without arguments now and then.

Opening up in front of someone is not easy, telling that someone everything about you, your secrets, is not comfortable. Having that courage to open up in front of your partner is what’s needed. But if you two don’t know the real ins and outs about each other, for example, stuff from each other’s past, etc. Then well, you both need to sit and have that talk.

Every couple fights at point or another, over one thing or another. It shows the passion is still in the relationship. I’m not saying every couple should compete with each other all the time, but having a real argument about something reasonable is okay. For example, if you two do not argue about anything at all, it can mean that you two don’t care about each other.

When I said ‘communication between the two is vital and that the couple should talk with each other more often,’ I didn’t mean to only talk about the weather and the day and all, you have got to have those private conversations as well. It doesn’t always have to be that serious, even talking about something fun together is good. Also, you have to look for the things they share with you, and the things they want to have with you.

If they talk about a future ˜together’, like you two can talk about going to places together, have kids together, plan your future together you are in a real relationship. But if they ignore these topics and try to talk about something else when you start talking about these, this is a relationship you don’t want to have

 

6. There is a power struggle

Letting go of your egos is essential for a sustainable relationship. You are in a relationship where someone always has to be right, and it doesn’t matter how it affects your relationship, all that matters is being right! This means that there is a lack of love in the relationship because when you are in love, you are more flexible, more concerned about your partner’s feelings, being right doesn’t always matter.

Remember, winning an argument is not a win in a relationship. Comprising is a big part of a healthy relationship. There can be times where the other person is wrong, but you have got to step down to end the fight or the argument. There is a chance that they understand what you are trying to say, some other time. Maybe they were having a wrong time, they were mad at something else, and your argument made them react in a way they wouldn’t have. Now, if you think that the perfect outcome of a dispute with your partner is the one where you are always right in the end, then it is not true love at all. You don’t care about your partner; all you care about is being right.

If you can cross your limits to prove a point to someone, then that means your ego is significant, and you don’t care about that person. You can be right, but that doesn’t mean that you can say anything to the other person. You have got to be careful about their feelings as well. If a person can let go their ego and admit a fault, they did not even commit, and just for you, there is no other person more right for you than this one.

7. There is s*xual chemistry….. ONLY

You guys are too hot for each other in the bed, but when it comes to talking and communication, you guys are clueless or just not interested. The only way you guys feel in sync is by utilizing physical contact, and this means you are in a s*xual relationship, once the infatuation dies, so will the link. This is a common, characteristic sign of a relationship being timely.

˜Friends with benefits’ is not the relationship you’re looking for here. The relationship where you want to have real feelings, trust, passion, and feel loved. It was said earlier in the article that mostly a connection is created to ˜get in your pants’. Many guys try to do that nowadays, they will say things to the girl that will make her feel like on top of the world, feel like she’s the only one for this guy, feel loved, but it is only to have s*xual relationship with that girl. Girls are considered to be emotional and have more feelings than guys. Guys use this very fact to their advantage and use their senses to get in bed with them. The guys know what the girls want to hear, so they start talking like that and make them feel they are in a genuine relationship. Again, not every guy is like that.

People can come across as tempting and attractive, and usually at the initial stages of the relationship; this is because they are trying to win you over. They will try to flirt more with you, make you feel beautiful, seduce you in different ways and act like they are head over heels for you to get what they want. Now there is nothing wrong with all these flirting and romance, but the problem here is that they are doing this, not because they are interested in you, they are doing this to get in bed with you.

8. You don’t know each other’s family and friends

A person who is serious about you wants to make you a part of his life will always introduce you to his friends and family. If it’s been a while and you still haven’t met each other’s family, and it doesn’t seem to bother one or both of you, this means the person doesn’t want to get ‘too involved’ and has set limits to how far the relationship will go.

Doing this can mean a couple of things; one is that the person is not sure about you at all. He thinks that this relationship won’t last for long, and you two will eventually break up, so why bother and make you meet his parents or friends. Second, he is not interested in you at all. This can be for, as it was said earlier, for s*xual reasons or time pass. So again, he won’t bother and invite you to meet his friends or family.

And it is not just up to them, and you have to ask them as well, because if you don’t care about meeting his friends or family either, then well, there is no love and affection from your side either. If the person is really into you and sees a future with you, he will very happily want to know more about your friends and family and want to meet them as well. Similarly, it goes for his side as well, if there is true love and that we’ll stay together forever’ feeling, he will want you to meet his circle of friends and family too.

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