How Do You Know Your Life Is Centered Around A Girl, who most times can be unfaithful and invariable?
It’s not a good thing for a man place his life and happiness around a woman. The invariability is too pronounced. Adam tried and failed.
In as much as ladies play a huge role in the grand scheme of things, they are not and shouldn’t be the reason for your woes. If they become, it’s because you allowed it. Enough is Enough.
1. When You Can Give Her Anything Just To Get Intimate
Self control is what makes a boy a man. If you’re in the class of those whose girlfriend control their existence via their vee-jay then I’m talking to you. Your life is tied around a girl. It could be frustrating.
2. When You Always Give Her Money To Sustain The “Relationship”
I don’t even know what to say to such folks. I mean, how could you? Heard a guy around was doing this; giving her 1k per day. Today, they’re not together. You can’t be doing. Not because you’re broke but because you’re tying your respect to something that has no strength: Things Fall Apart, The Centre Cannot Hold.
3. When You Can’t Correct Her Without Fear Of Her Leaving You
One day or another, the girl that won’t stay will find a reason to leave. Stop breaking your head. If she’s wrong, go head on and correct the error that moment. If she’s proud, there’s no future. If you keep managing her, you life is tied.
4. When You Skip Lectures Just To Be With Her
I used to have a hostel neighbour then who misses lectures just to stay indoors with girlfriend. I know someone else who won’t open his shop because he’s home alone with his girl. Both of them, their cluelessness is wider than River Niger.
5. When After A Breakup You Keep Crying Like A “baby”
I personally detest this. Currently on the earth’s surface, there are over 3 billion girls. Stop crying over one. Please.
6. When You Can’t Stay A Month Without Being In A Relationship
Taking a cue from the previous point, those who weep and mourn because a girl is leaving their lives are those who are addicted to always being in a relationship. They just must co-habit, with emotions intact.
7. When You Don’t Do BeeJay But Because She Wants It, You Did it
Honestly, this depicts you as a ‘slave’ of some sort. Stand your ground. Don’t do anything and everything to PLEASE a girl. Do your thing and put yourself first. You’re safer that way. She is too.
8. When You ALWAYS Send Money At Her Request
I dunno about you but telling a lady NO is a beautiful thing. They may want you to prove your love by being financially responsible but DO IT, not on their terms, but yours. You mustn’t always send money to her. Simple.
9. When You Can Borrow Airtime Just To Speak To Her BUT You Can’t Do Same For Your Siblings
How can you place her above your siblings? You’re not yet married to her and you’re being indebted just to please her. She asks you to send airtime, you do and she won’t even call you with that airtime. Let it end in 2017.
10. When You See Nothing Wrong With You Always Having To Beg Even When She’s Wrong
You mustn’t always beg her when there’s a fight or disagreement. You mustn’t always read all and click YES, I AGREE. You must stand your ground sometimes and let her feel sorry for her wrong. If you don’t agree with me, my brother your life is Centered Around her and that can be very very risky.
11. When You Call Her More Than You Call Your Mum
Who does that? Our mums are our first girlfriends. You shouldn’t let a girl walk into your life and suddenly you make excuse for not calling your parents but you speak to her on per hour basis. You are the one I’m talking about.
12. When Your Money Is “Our” Money But Her Money Is Her Money.
Forgerrit, even as you guys are, our money is our money. GO DUTCH with her. I mean, share responsibilities with her. How can you keep a girl you hope to marry and she saves her money but spends yours. It’s only normal if you find a well-groomed girl. If you refuse to heed to me, you’re tied bro.
13. When You Get Jealous Whenever She Wants You To.
Jealousy in relationships is a show of untrustworthiness and a product of premature knowledge of each other. Ladies know how to get their man jealous BUT if you can pass that test, your life isn’t tied to hers.
You’re good for something. Don’t allow yourself to look like a dullard before a girl who obviously doesn’t care about you but wants to play with your time and money.
Above all, don’t allow your life to be tied and centered around a girl. Go for girls but don’t make them all you go for.
Find ultimate pleasure in goals not in girls.