Has it ever happened to you that you got attached to someone too fast and after it ended, that person just could not get out of your head? Or sometimes when someone just criticizes you without any apparent reason and you cannot stop thinking about it for hours or weeks.
Do not worry because you certainly are not the only one suffering from this condition. Almost everyone goes through this in life and the stress can lead to depression in some cases.
Here are a few tips that you can follow to take someone out of your head for good:
Distract yourself in something healthy:
Usually, in this situation, people ask you to simply distract yourself from the current situation. Most people then end up being addicted to alcohol or become smokers. The key is to distract yourself into something healthy.
Adapt a new activity that you can perform every time those thoughts start creeping back into your mind. For example, start working out at home or join a gym. If that is too much then learn to cook and soon you will find yourself indulged in an activity that not only gives you the satisfaction of being good but also gives you pleasure.
Adapt the silent route:
If someone says something bad to you or you feel hurt by someone’s behavior then just keep one thing in mind: your reaction can worsen the situation. Just stay silent and let it all simmer down to a point where it no longer affects you anymore and you can easily look past through this and move on.
Saying something in reaction to an already negative comment will make you no different from the person who is the reason for all your misery. Staying silent on the other hand will give you the upper hand and the person also gets the impression that whatever he or she is saying does not really affect you any bad.
Do not assume:
Assumptions can be as lethal as negative reactions. You hear someone say something to you and you assume that it all can be true in some way or other. Sometimes a vague idea put inside our head by someone else can lead us to draw conclusions that are not meant to be. Soon we become so used to that idea that we start assuming that the fault is in us.
The fact that your boyfriend dumped you because he thinks you are not smart enough is really just a load of a pile of garbage. You know who you are and no one in this world can actually know you’re worth better than yourself.
First thing’s first:
Calm yourself down. In any negative situation where your response is required, do not advance with a hothead. Relax completely, think the whole situation through, and think of all the possible outcomes before you take any step.
Your first thing to do in such a situation is to stay in control. The moment you lose control over yourself is when you give power to your offender to stick on to your mind for a very long time.
Do not try to figure others out:
It is enough that you figure out what you think of yourself if you come across a difficult situation. Do not figure out what others are thinking or their motive behind all the drama. Just as no one can know what is actually going on in your mind, you cannot know exactly what the other person is thinking. Maybe he or she has some really solid reason behind hurting you but they know it will do you good in the long run. You do not know that so do not try to figure out what is actually happening inside their head because it will only make the situation worse for you.
What you think is not 100% factual:
Often when you cannot let go of something and it keeps lingering on in your head then you start having different kinds of thoughts which are in fact unnecessary. Do not trust every little thought that comes across your head because when you are stressed out then your negative energy is higher than the positive energy and that leads to bad thoughts that can actually lead you astray.
It is not necessary that whatever you think or feel is based on facts. Maybe you do not know the other side of the story. Maybe you got yourself in a difficult situation without even realizing it. It is all a game of mind and that is why just keep it cool and thought-free.
Think about how the situation can benefit you:
Not being able to take someone out of your head can be frustrating at times. When it becomes too hard to bear just think of any possibility that how over-thinking about it can benefit you. It cannot. Overthinking never helps.
It only destroys the bit of sanity that is left inside you and drains you of the power to move on from that bad incident. The only thing that can benefit you is to learn and move forward. Staying in the same place for a very long time can have the same results on your mind as those of rust on steel.
Learn to forget and forgive:
Be the bigger person and just forget the whole thing. Forgiving the person is even better because that is when you can successfully take him out of your mind. In any situation, there is someone who suffers and the other one is the reason for all that pain.
Apparently, it seems like the offender has all the control over the situation but the moment you forget, forgive and leave all that behind is the moment when you become in charge of your own life and you tell the other person that the reigns are in your hand loud and clear
Kindness can help you through the most difficult of times. Be kind to everyone especially the person who is the reason behind all that chaos in your life. It will free your soul of any negative feelings of revenge or letting the other person know their worth.
When you are kind to them you are already one step ahead of them in life because you know better than animosity and hate will lead you nowhere in life. So be kind because kindness always finds its way back and repays you in the most beautiful way one can imagine.
Whenever you feel like the situation is getting out of hand just take a time out, think about the color black and just breathe. Do not stop taking deep breaths until and unless you find yourself under control again.
Take as much time as you want, be in your happy place and relax. Do not let the pressure of forgetting someone takes control over your mind and seeps into your soul. Instead, make an exercise out of it. Every time you feel like the pressure is too much, just stop everything, sit down for a minute and breathe. This will really help you to focus on yourself rather than that person.
Getting worried affects your health:
We all know that worry only takes a person down the hill. You worry too much because that face is everywhere around you and one day you fall apart and face a nervous breakdown. You get weaker and weaker every day and who knows that one thing becomes the cause of death for you.
Try to take things easier and lighter and if you feel trapped by the thoughts then you always have the option to consider therapy. Make sure that you know your life is a gift from God and you should not be wasting it on unnecessary thoughts.
Don’t expect it all to become okay in one day:
Things like this require patience and time. Figuring out what to do is one thing and waiting for the results to be shown is another. Many people lose patience in the second step and all their hard work goes to waste.
It takes time to forget things and people but it is not impossible. All you need is your daily reminder and breathers and you are all good to go. Do not try to find shortcuts or unexpected hookups in the search of throwing someone out of your mind because that never helps.
You are not to be blamed for anything:
Do not let anybody blame you for something you have not done. The manipulation can corrode your mind and you start to believe that, yes, you are the main reason behind your own suffering. Don’t let him call you clingy or over-emotional. Don’t let anybody call you someone you are not. Yes, you have feelings but who does not?
Ask yourself just one question. Can you give anybody the slightest right to call you someone who you are not or cannot even become? Does anyone have any right over what you feel and how you behave in a relationship? No. Only you have it and nobody can take it from you.
Sit back and relax:
For once do not try to make things right. Sit back and relax and watch what happens. Take a long vacation and visit your parents or that beach you always wanted to go to. Do not think. Do not try to make anything right. Just get away from the whole situation and see how it all then affects you. Sometimes all you need is to escape.
Once you are free from all the responsibilities and your duties as a person, you are free to enjoy your life and think less. You might meet new people who are actually worthy of being a part of your life and the socializing can help you forget all about the person killing your brain cells.
Throw away the memories:
Make a mental box and collect all the memories you have of that person with you in that box. Shut it down, lock it twice, put chains around it, and throw it into the sea. It is not as simple as it sounds but it clearly helps if you do it the right way. If you do not want to throw it in the sea then bury it somewhere far far away so that it can never come back.
Your mind is the only key here. Up until you want to stay sane and happy you have to control everything according to the way it makes you happy. Get rid of all the negativity in your life.