Have you ever been with a cheater?
All people are imperfect. That’s a fact of life that we all have to learn to accept. People make mistakes, and we have to learn to forgive them for the most part. And that’s something that you always have to keep in mind throughout the stretch of this reading.
Now, however, you also have to remember that you can’t just allow yourself to be subject to the constant abuses and mistakes of someone in your life. It gets to a point where you can still forgive them for their shortcomings, but you can’t necessarily tolerate them anymore. While you would never want to use a person’s past against them, you can always get a good gauge of how they’re going to treat you in the future by looking into how they have always been in the past.
For instance, if you’re just getting into a relationship with someone, you are going to want to know about what their history is like so that you can get a better read of what kind of people they are. And if you start looking into a potential partner’s dating history, and if you find out that they’ve cheated on partners before, it’s okay for you to be a little hesitant. It’s okay for you to start having some second thoughts. It’s not about prejudice.
It’s not that you automatically consider them to be terrible people. You know that people change and they learn from their mistakes. But you don’t want to be victimized. You still want to do your part in making sure that you don’t let anyone else hurt you. You just can’t shake the idea of them being capable of cheating on their exes – and how they might eventually cheat on you too.
All relationships are just inherently complex and loaded. There’s just no simplifying it. Just because someone made the mistake of cheating in a past relationship doesn’t automatically guarantee a likelihood of cheating in the future. You can’t just allow yourself to jump to that conclusion. But again, it’s a warranted concern and it’s perfectly valid for you to have such apprehensions. They might be dealing with some serious issues in their lives that actually make them prone to infidelity. And you don’t want to be on the losing end of that scenario. You don’t want to end up as just another victim. You don’t want to end up as someone who dates a guy who cheats. You end up stuck at a crossroads and there’s a very difficult decision that you’re going to have to make for yourself.
What do you do? You don’t want to give up on the possibility of love just because you couldn’t overlook a person’s past. But you also don’t want to open yourself up to getting played as a fool by someone who has a history of cheating. Well, ultimately, the decision is going to lie with you. You are the one who has to come to terms with what you want to do. But that doesn’t mean that you should be making this decision on your own either. You can refer to the key points in this article to help you come to a more informed and more rational decision. You can’t just always be leading with your heart after all. You want to take a logical approach to it as well. And maybe this article can help you have more peace of mind about the situation that you’re in.
Did they come clean to you about it? If so, then that’s a good sign. It shows that they want to be honest and transparent with you. But if you had to find out from someone else, then maybe you should reconsider opening yourself up to him.
If they don’t seem even remotely remorseful about their infidelity, then you know that that isn’t a good sign at all. But if they genuinely seem like they feel bad about
What do your instincts tell you? What does your gut say? You always have to be able to listen to your intuition when you are stuck at a crossroads such as this.
This is probably the most essential question that you need to ask yourself about this entire situation. You want to make sure that your partner has actually learned and grown from their infidelity. Cheating is a mistake; and the only way we can ever turn a mistake into a positive is if we learn from it. And if he hasn’t learned from it, then perhaps he isn’t worth taking a chance on.
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The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé