It totally sucks whenever you find out that you’ve just been cheated on. You fall in love with someone and hopefully, they love you in return. You establish a kind of emotional bond and connection with one another – and you always hope for the best.
You get into a relationship that is full of hope, trust, and positivity. But somehow, somewhere along the line, your partner slips up. And this is a definitive moment in your relationship.
You feel like you’ve been completely betrayed. The initial trust that you placed on this relationship and in your partner has been broken and tarnished. You don’t know how you’re going to move on from this.
Should you end the relationship? Should you try to fight for it even though you were the one who was wronged?
There is no definitive answer to those questions. Plenty of couples have tried to make it work after cases of infidelity only to have more infidelity come their way. Others are actually able to recover and have meaningful lifelong relationships despite that major hiccup.
So it all depends on the personalities of the people involved – and the strength of the love that they have for one another. It’s a case to case basis; and you’re going to have to figure things out on your own if you are unfortunate enough to find yourself in that kind of situation.
And it’s not an easy decision to make at all. There are so many things that you need to factor into your decision. You need to be thinking about so many facets of the situation that you might end up feeling a little overwhelmed. And that’s okay. That’s normal.
To help ease your worries, you should do yourself a favor and gather as much perspective as you can from the people who have already been there. If you have friends who have been in relationships before that involved cheating and infidelity, then consult them about the situation that you’re in.
And if you still feel like you lack some perspective, then just turn to this article. Highlighted here are going to be 5 real-life testimonies from different women about how they were able to push past the cases of infidelity in their relationships. Hopefully, by the end of this article, you will have learned something valuable that could help you with your own situation.
1. “It was sheer determination” – Wynona, 55
Sometimes, it all just boils down to the commitment that it takes to make things work. There are very few things in relationships that sheer commitment and determination won’t fix. So as long as the both of you choose to stay together and work things out, then you are never going to have to drift apart. It wasn’t easy; but it was definitely worth it.
2. “We had to rely on therapy to make things work.” – Rose, 42
There’s no shame in seeking professional help when it comes to your feelings and emotions as a couple. We are all flawed human beings and we are all trying to find our way in this world at our own individual paces. And sometimes, that means we can often disregard what we’re feeling and we end up not processing our emotions in a constructive and healthy manner.
That’s where therapy comes in. It can help us come to terms with how we’re feeling; and how we can best deal with our emotions.
3. “I just focused on my own life.” – Trish, 29
It was a terrible thing that happened. And I realized that I didn’t need to make a decision for the relationship as a whole. I needed to make a decision for myself – and that’s exactly what I did. I put the relationship on hold for a while and I made myself the priority. Over time, I was eventually able to heal and I entertained the thought of finding love back with him again.
4. “We had to take a break.” – Jackie, 52
We just needed to separate for a while. It hurt me when I found out about what he did. It was terrible. I felt like that was the lowest I had ever been in my life. And it was when I realized just how bad I was feeling when I started to heal. And slowly, over time, I learned to just lick my wounds on my own. And we somehow made our way back into each other’s arms.
5. “I communicated all of my needs and expectations clearly.” – Kristina, 30
I didn’t make it easy for him. I told him every single thing that he needed to do to earn back my trust. I made it clear to him exactly what I expected from him and from the relationship. And I told him that if he failed to meet my needs, then I would never be able to find a way to forgive him. And he’s still constantly working on that until now.
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