Is your partner holding you back?
When we choose to get into a relationship, it is absolutely necessary for us to make a few compromises every now and then. Because of our individuality, it would be virtually impossible for us to always be in sync with our partners. That is why compromises are necessary. When we have disagreements with our partners, we have to be able to find a middle ground in order to preserve the balance and the harmony in the relationship. Couples must always be willing to give up little bits of themselves for the sake of the romance.
However, a lot of people can make the mistake of compromising also much of who they are. You should never be willing to give up the essential parts of yourself for the sake of the relationship. If you essentially give up your sense of identity, then that is never a good thing for the union. No relationship is ever worth giving up your personality and your ideals for. You should be willing to make some compromises, yes. But your partner should also accept that there are facets to your personality that are non-negotiable.
This includes your goals and dreams. You have your personal aspirations. You have envisioned a future for yourself and you can’t just give them up. In the end, you will end up resenting your partner for standing in the way of the future that you wanted. So it’s better to see the signs early on. You have to know if you have a partner who is going to support you with your goals, or if you have one who is going to keep you from achieving them. This way, you can make a few adjustments to your life as you see fit.
1. They always encourage you to procrastinate.
You don’t want to have a partner who encourages you to just put things off as often as possible. You should look for a partner who actually encourages you to work on your responsibilities. You don’t want someone who discourages you from getting your work done early.
2. They belittle your dreams.
It’s so difficult when you’re dating someone who just doesn’t see the importance of your dreams and aspirations. You need to be with a partner who actually understands how essential it is for you to go after your goals. If your partner thinks that your goals in life are pretty foolish, then that’s not a good thing at all.
3. They distract you from your goals.
You can’t afford distractions at this point. You are young and you are on a roll. You have all the momentum and energy in the world to go after what you want in life. If your partner is always distracting you from achieving your dreams, then your partner is essentially being a human road block. – Continue reading on the next page
4. They act jealous whenever you get a taste of success.
A jealous partner is a struggle to be with. For one, it can be challenging to deal with a partner who gets jealous whenever you hang out with other people. But it’s another thing entirely when your partner gets jealous about you being successful and driven in life. Those aren’t things that normal partners should be getting jealous of.
5. They don’t make any sacrifices for you.
Your partner should be willing to make sacrifices for you every once in a while. Remember the principle of compromises in relationships? They should work both ways. It can’t be just you who is making all the compromises in the relationship. Your partner should also be willing to make a few compromises here and there for your sake.
6. They are overly pessimistic.
Don’t date a partner who is constantly telling you that you can’t do it. You deserve to be with someone who actually believes in your capabilities as a human being. Your partner should be pushing you towards success. They shouldn’t be the ones who are trying to bring you down.
7. They act also needy.
It can be difficult for a person to take care of two people at the same time. First of all, you have yourself to worry about. You are ambitious and you reach for the stars, and that means you always have to be on the lookout for yourself. That’s why you can’t afford to have a partner who needs to be taken care of constantly as well. It takes two mature and independent people to make a real adult relationship work.
8. They tell you outright to just quit.
If your partner tells you that you should just quit and walk away, then you have to make a choice at this point. You have to choose if this relationship is worth having your dreams broken or if you should just walk away from this relationship to go after the future that you want for yourself. At the end of the day, if your partner makes you choose between one and the other, you have to think long and hard about the decision you’re going to make.
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The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé